Remember You Forget: What it means to Remember to Remember
When Winston Churchill said, “Let our advance worrying become our advance thinking and planning.” he was probably referring to prospective memory. Here’s a quick personal story-
I left my office on Friday and walked to my car. I put my laptop, a book and printed notes in the back seat and put my handbag on the front seat. Nonchalantly, I drove to pick my son from soccer. Afterwards we went to Publix and picked up some groceries and we got home. I gathered my handbag from the front seat and groceries from the trunk and felt I had no apparent reasons to open the door to the back seat. In fact, if I had done that, I would have seen the laptop and the paperwork and would have taken it inside the house with me.. It wasn’t after two hours when I sat down in my bed to check possible flights to San Francisco with the thought of planning out the summer that I realized that my laptop was still in the car. The thought of using the laptop made me think of the laptop still being in the car. I know this is a long-winded story, but does this happen to you?
Forgetting to pick up the laptop from my car and bringing it in is a minor glitch but if I run into such ‘failure to remember to do’ glitches 17 times during the day it could be a nightmare. That is what happens to folks with Executive Function Disorder.
Teaching thinking and study strategies to students with Executive Function Disorder requires me to train them to acknowledge the fact that “they will forget”. This very ability to remind oneself to remember to remember is called Prospective memory. During the day, our brain is bustling in ideas that need a follow up at a later time. For example:
- Call Stacy back after getting home
- Get started with the paper on Sunday before 3pm
- Return the library book (to avoid late fee) by Saturday
- Set the recording for a new TV show before it airs on Monday
- Get email address for John and his wife so that you can send them an e-vite for dinner
- Reply to Anne’s email about carpool for next Friday
Prospective Memory is an internal process of remembering to perform an intended action in the future at a specific time without any direct prompt from the outside world. There has to be a strong intention to pursue the initial intended thought.
The idea occurs to us at “Time 1” but it needs to be executed at “Time 2”. The act of remembering to remember from “Time 1” to “Time 2” is called rehearsal. Here’s how Prospective Memory works:
- a. TIME 1 = Form an intention (example, I would like to pick my prescription from CVS)
- b. CHOOSE TIME 10 = Set out a future time frame (example, I would like to do this on Thursday after lunch but before my meeting at 4pm)
- c. TIME 2-9 = Engage in rehearsal (example, remind yourself to remember from now until Thursday, from Thursday breakfast till Thursday Lunch….)
- d. TIME 10 = DO the intention action (example, actually go to CVS and pick it up at 3:40pm as you are driving to John’s office for a meeting)
When an individual suffers from Executive Function Disorder, they run into several glitches during Time 1, Time 2-9 and Time 10 because of inattention, poor judgment or poorly formed intentions.
Daily conversations are riddled with casual references to memory, reminders, and forgetfulness where people often use these terms interchangeably. However, it is important to distinguish Prospective Memory from Episodic Memory or Semantic Memory.
Episodic Memory refers to autobiographical memory for events and experiences that can be recalled. For example, recalling what you did over summer of 2012, remembering what gift you gave Suzie at her wedding etc.
Semantic Memory refers to the mental record that we create of facts and concepts, which help build our knowledge about the world around us. For example, remembering how many ounces in a liter or recalling the MVP of last Super bowl.
It is a fact- we all forget. But forgetting to pick up a present for your wife at least a day ahead is different from forgetting your wife’s date of birth or for that matter, forgetting that you HAVE a wife!
Research describes two important and yet different types of Prospective Memory tasks:
- a. Event-Based Prospective Memory Tasks where a person has to remembers to do something in response to a target prompt which can be an image or an event. An example,
- How well we remember to carry out Event-based tasks depends on its familiarity, specificity and uniqueness. Of course, it also helps if there is a strong mental association between the target event and an intended action.
- b. Time-based Prospective Memory Tasks where a person has to remember to do something after a certain time interval. For example,
- Take out cookies from the oven in 17 minutes or
- Renew your driver’s license by August 23rd, which is in 7 more months.
- Submit your college application at 11:59 pm on December 15th
Research suggests that once an intention is firmed up in your mind and a memory trace is created people rehearse without any apparent external triggers. They do this more so for time-based tasks than for event-based tasks.
Treatment of Executive Function Disorder must entail training of Prospective Memory skills. Breaking the process down and helping students understand how to create futuristic intentions can yield success. The training process needs to address explicit rules of ‘remembering to remember” and modeling of “how-to” and engage in three distinct rehearsals.
So next time, if you have a disorganized yet brilliant student who has a dazzling memory and can name capitals of most of the countries, state obscure facts about puffer fish or quote Shakespeare; get him to accept the baffling truth about his own Executive Dysfunction: “I don’t always remember that I often forget to remind myself to remember!”
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